feat: add destination-aware native shuffle execution (3/n)

[pingzh]

Which issue does this PR close?

Part of #5352. This is the third foundational PR and does not close the issue.

Previous PRs:

• feat: add RSS partition writer and task-owned JNI callback (1/n) #5473
• feat: add partition writer destinations to native shuffle plans (2/n) #5476

Rationale for this change

Previous PRs introduced the RSS partition writer and destination-aware shuffle plans, but native shuffle execution still supports only local files. This PR enables the existing shuffle execution path to write to either local files or a remote shuffle service.

What changes are included in this PR?

• Introduce ShuffleWriterDestination with local and RSS destinations.
• Add a destination-aware ShuffleWriterExec constructor while preserving the existing local constructor.
• Reuse existing partitioners for both local and remote shuffle output.
• Preserve typed callback errors and enforce RSS frame-size limits.
• Update spill logging and metrics documentation for remote destinations.
• Add end-to-end coverage for compression codecs, partitioning strategies, empty schemas, remote spilling, callback failures, and local compatibility.

Binding RSS destinations to task-owned JVM callbacks will be addressed in a subsequent PR.

How are these changes tested?

• Added 10 end-to-end RSS execution tests.
• Passed 98 Rust tests across shuffle, JNI bridge, protobuf, and planner suites.
• Passed all 31 tests in CometNativeShuffleSuite.
• Passed workspace-wide Clippy, Rust formatting checks, and the full Maven reactor build.

[sunchao]

Reviewed commit 8281c3490c9cc007e846d02f3bc6ef500bf7ba16 with five independent reviewers covering execution lifecycle, partitioning/spills, callbacks/framing, local compatibility, and edge cases. No outstanding verified P1/P2 findings.

Local validation passed: 60 shuffle unit tests (including all 10 added tests), 24 local/RSS output comparisons, 3 partial callback failure checks, and formatting/diff checks. Actual JVM/RSS integration was not exercised; callback binding is deferred.

[sunchao]

Merged, thanks @pingzh !!!