diff --git a/apps/roam/src/components/canvas/DiscourseRelationShape/DiscourseRelationTool.tsx b/apps/roam/src/components/canvas/DiscourseRelationShape/DiscourseRelationTool.tsx
index 59b81387d..3de61e49e 100644
--- a/apps/roam/src/components/canvas/DiscourseRelationShape/DiscourseRelationTool.tsx
+++ b/apps/roam/src/components/canvas/DiscourseRelationShape/DiscourseRelationTool.tsx
@@ -10,6 +10,7 @@ import {
 } from "./DiscourseRelationUtil";
 import { discourseContext } from "~/components/canvas/Tldraw";
 import { dispatchToastEvent } from "~/components/canvas/ToastListener";
+import { isRelationComplete } from "~/utils/isRelationComplete";
 
 export type AddReferencedNodeType = Record<string, ReferenceFormatType[]>;
 type ReferenceFormatType = {
@@ -341,6 +342,17 @@ export const createAllRelationShapeTools = (
         override onEnter = () => {
           this.didTimeout = false;
 
+          const selectedRelations = discourseContext.relations[name] || [];
+          const hasIncompleteSelectedRelation = selectedRelations.some(
+            (relation) => !isRelationComplete(relation),
+          );
+          if (hasIncompleteSelectedRelation) {
+            this.cancelAndWarn(
+              "Relation type is incomplete. Set label, complement, source, and destination in settings.",
+            );
+            return;
+          }
+
           const target = this.editor.getShapeAtPoint(
             this.editor.inputs.currentPagePoint,
             // {
diff --git a/apps/roam/src/components/canvas/overlays/RelationTypeDropdown.tsx b/apps/roam/src/components/canvas/overlays/RelationTypeDropdown.tsx
index 758a94033..cba68cb11 100644
--- a/apps/roam/src/components/canvas/overlays/RelationTypeDropdown.tsx
+++ b/apps/roam/src/components/canvas/overlays/RelationTypeDropdown.tsx
@@ -6,6 +6,7 @@ import {
   getAllRelations,
   isDiscourseNodeShape,
 } from "~/components/canvas/canvasUtils";
+import { isRelationComplete } from "~/utils/isRelationComplete";
 
 type RelationTypeDropdownProps = {
   sourceId: TLShapeId;
@@ -47,6 +48,7 @@ export const RelationTypeDropdown = ({
     const seenLabels = new Set<string>();
 
     for (const relation of allRelations) {
+      if (!isRelationComplete(relation)) continue;
       const { isDirect: isForward, isReverse } = checkConnectionType(
         relation,
         startNodeType,
diff --git a/apps/roam/src/components/settings/DiscourseRelationConfigPanel.tsx b/apps/roam/src/components/settings/DiscourseRelationConfigPanel.tsx
index 7b767b77c..7ad12d8f5 100644
--- a/apps/roam/src/components/settings/DiscourseRelationConfigPanel.tsx
+++ b/apps/roam/src/components/settings/DiscourseRelationConfigPanel.tsx
@@ -44,6 +44,7 @@ import getPageTitleByPageUid from "roamjs-components/queries/getPageTitleByPageU
 import updateBlock from "roamjs-components/writes/updateBlock";
 import getTextByBlockUid from "roamjs-components/queries/getTextByBlockUid";
 import getDiscourseNodes from "~/utils/getDiscourseNodes";
+import { isRelationComplete } from "~/utils/isRelationComplete";
 import { getConditionLabels } from "~/utils/conditionToDatalog";
 import { formatHexColor } from "./DiscourseNodeCanvasSettings";
 import posthog from "posthog-js";
@@ -516,7 +517,14 @@ export const RelationEditPanel = ({
       const relationEl = document.getElementById("relation-label");
       relationEl?.focus();
     }
-  }, []);
+  }, [label]);
+
+  const isEditingRelationComplete = isRelationComplete({
+    label,
+    complement,
+    source,
+    destination,
+  });
 
   return (
     <>
@@ -535,7 +543,7 @@ export const RelationEditPanel = ({
           icon={"floppy-disk"}
           text={"Save"}
           intent={Intent.PRIMARY}
-          disabled={loading || !hasChanges}
+          disabled={loading || !hasChanges || !isEditingRelationComplete}
           className="select-none"
           onClick={() => {
             setLoading(true);
diff --git a/apps/roam/src/utils/isRelationComplete.ts b/apps/roam/src/utils/isRelationComplete.ts
new file mode 100644
index 000000000..01fa2d877
--- /dev/null
+++ b/apps/roam/src/utils/isRelationComplete.ts
@@ -0,0 +1,19 @@
+import type { DiscourseRelation } from "./getDiscourseRelations";
+
+const PLACEHOLDER_VALUES = new Set(["?"]);
+
+const isNonEmptyNonPlaceholder = (
+  value: string | null | undefined,
+): boolean => {
+  if (!value) return false;
+  const trimmed = value.trim();
+  return trimmed.length > 0 && !PLACEHOLDER_VALUES.has(trimmed);
+};
+
+export const isRelationComplete = (
+  relation: Partial<DiscourseRelation>,
+): boolean =>
+  isNonEmptyNonPlaceholder(relation.label) &&
+  isNonEmptyNonPlaceholder(relation.complement) &&
+  isNonEmptyNonPlaceholder(relation.source) &&
+  isNonEmptyNonPlaceholder(relation.destination);